Pastor Julie, a clergywoman from Nigeria, claims that the reason her nearly 40 years of marriage have been successful is because she chose to act foolish.
In a popular video, Pastor Julie gave counsel to married couples based on her own experience of being married for 39 years. She claimed that in order for her marriage to succeed, she had to play the fool.
She added that in order to focus on developing a solid and healthy relationship with her husband, she had to learn to let go of her pride and ego.
She counseled playing the fool even when you know you are right in order to maintain a marriage.
In her words:
However, Betty Irabor, a well-known Nigerian author and publisher who has been married for almost 40 years, responded to Pastor Julie's revelation.“I have come to realize in these 39 years of being with my husband…I realized I had to play the fool for my marriage to work, playing the fool even when I know I am right.
“Foolishness in a relationship. For you to sustain your marriage, you have to play the fool. Playing the fool when even you know your right from your left. The man is claiming right, you are claiming right, it will not work.”
The founder of Genevieve Magazine, who didn't seem to agree with her revelation and advise to other married couples, claimed that although she had been married for 39 years as well, she had learned that playing the fool for that long to keep the peace was bad for her mental, emotional, and physical health.
She penned;
She counseled playing the fool even when you know you are right in order to maintain a marriage.
“Eeeya. I have been married 39 years too… Playing a fool for that long to maintain peace in the name of submissiveness or respect for your spouse is unhealthy; mentally, emotionally and physically. Gosh! But if the formula is working for her marriage I salute her.”
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